Lately, I’ve had a hard time balancing my have to get done list.
Working from home has its advantages, but it also adds countless distractions to the day when I want to be working. I’ve often dreamed of an office space that I can go to with a cubicle, coffee/tea maker, and a bathroom. Sure most writers go to a coffee house to work, but I’m blessed with tiny bladder capacity and need easy access to the loo. I’m not one to leave my computer on a table in a public place for someone to take, so I have to pack up all my belongings anytime I have to go. And I do write with friends out in other places, but that poses a distraction of its own and sometimes myself or workmates might be talkative, leading to less productivity. A quiet little office space would be perfect, but I’m sure they are way out of my price range. 🙂
For the last sixteen years, I’ve been a stay-at-home mom. Although I’m writing full time now, I still have all those responsibilities and boy has my performance dipped. The bonus is my kids are learning more independence, but on the other end, I don’t know the last time I mopped or dusted the house. Sometimes, my younger guys even come to me to say they have no clean clothes. Sadly, on occasion, I’ve had to tell them to pick the cleanest thing out of their basket and wear it. Mind you, this would not work for my teenagers, but they are supposed to be doing their own at this point. I’m just barely getting dishes done within a day of use (I’m actually quite embarrassed by that).
I’m a little bit controlling with where things should be in the house and how clean it should be, but in my new lifestyle, I’ve had to relax my standards. Problem is, once I’ve done that, and someone puts something away in the wrong place I’ve had to start closing cabinet doors and stop looking, because I know it will take me too much time to put it back. And I can’t complain that something was put away wrong, because at least it wasn’t left out.
So while family always comes first, my other duties as a stay at home parent have suffered, because dammit, I love to write and while I don’t mind doing the housework, it doesn’t give me the same sense of purpose and accomplishment. No one has ever thanked me for wiping down the table or counter top or sweeping, so I’m going to continue to do what makes me feel good about myself and pray that somehow the other stuff gets done or I learn to overlook it.
Oh and, I got notes back from my agent today on Highland Redemption. It’s the weekend. My husband is outside re-teaching our youngest how to ride his bike, my 5th grader is running around with a friend here at our house as usual, I’ve taken the 9th grader to crew practice for two hours, a 45 minute ride there and back again, and my daughter is a thirty minute drive away at a function and needs to be picked up in an hour. But we’re going to get all the family stuff done and I’m still going to work this weekend.
Somehow I’ve even managed to get this blogpost done on time! WooHoo, reason to celebrate.
How do you balance what you have to get done?
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